Preparing for Adulthood, Therapy

Adulthood and Physiotherapy

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As parents of children with additional needs, we learn language, systems, processes that become our norm. When a child has physical needs such as low muscle tone or hypermobility (and any number of other issues), we learn to manage physiotherapy appointments. These might happen at school, often delivered by a teaching assistant, or you might have hospital sessions, and then keep exercising at home. But what happens when your little boy or little girl turns 18?

Physiotherapy services in the adult world of the NHS are quite different and it can be a shock to the system to know that from one week to the next you may be discharged, with no real plan moving forward. So what to do?

Each family and each young person is different, but here are a few thoughts:

Get to know your GP – really well. Take the time to build a relationship with them, and encourage your young person to get to know them. This will take TIME and perseverance, especially if your youngling is anxious or struggles with communication. When they get called for a flu jab (if relevant), encourage them to make the call to book an appointment. It might help to give them a script, or practise the call. We’ll talk about this more another time.

The GP can make referrals to physiotherapy, usually in batches of 6 sessions. They can and do make repeat referrals, but there isn’t really a way to get the kind of therapy that you will be used to. This can be really difficult, because you won’t be able to build the kind of relationship that you may have had (or your child may have had) with a therapist or that one person who did the work with them every session.

So what are the other options?

  1. Private physiotherapists: an option for those who have the means and which will be ideal for some, but not necessary for many young adults.
  2. Personal trainer: you might choose to ask your current physiotherapist to write a report or even pay for a meeting between them to ensure your young person’s needs are understood.
  3. Sports: what sport would meet need? Think about how this option will help your young person connect with others and belong in their community. This could be through a club, or a gym membership.

Remember that your little boy or little girl is now a young adult and our job as parents is to help launch them safely into adult life. So take a step back and think about what needs the current physiotherapy is meeting – how much of it is habit, how much of it is essential healthcare, and how much is necessary physical maintenance?

Then consider what he or she could put in place in their life that would meet that need in a way that mirrors what their mainstream peers might be doing…

Good luck – and let me know how you’ve navigated this issue, or what your thoughts are!

PS. For those of you with very complex young people, you may be looking at long term support from the NHS, called “Continuing Health Care”. Should your child meet the criteria, physiotherapy might be included in their care package. It’s important to understand that criteria for CHC are extremely strict and only a very small minority of children who had EHCPs and high support in childhood will be eligible.

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Life and Hope…

One of the most important messages I want to give those of you who find Tugboat, is that life can be good and hope is always worth looking for.

So I’m going to share some of my personal stories on this blog as I go – to give you some very real examples of life with disability and additional need, and how it is possible to find a way to “good”.

Big news for me! I recently became a grandmother! My amazing daughter has complex needs. She needed a special school, and even that didn’t work out. It’s fair to say that she has had some really dark times.

And yet…. at the tender age of 20, she has left home, found herself a rented flat, navigated employment, benefits, household bills AND found the love of her life and had a planned baby!

The new family is doing so well and I’m incredibly proud of them. She is already a remarkable mother, beautifully responsive to her baby’s needs and communicating to nurses, health visitors and social workers like a pro.

Neither of us would have believed this even three years ago – and yet here we are! Hers is really a story of hope fulfilled.

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Welcome to Tugboat!

Launching any new enterprise is scary and exciting – and the ratio of those two emotions changes more often than is comfortable!

So… I’m welcoming you all to my little world, where my approach to the complicated systems put in place to support children with additional needs is practical. While legislation and rights are very, very important, they don’t always apply to everyone, and they are only rarely THE solution.

As a mum to three such wonderful (and infuriating) children, I’ve slowly learned that we need to find a way to live life first. What I hope to do with Tugboat is help you navigate your particular set of circumstances, to be able to live the life you would like to rather than one in which your every waking moment is focussed on paperwork and advocacy.

We’ll be launching officially in September, because I’m newly a grandmother!! But don’t hesitate to send me an email if you’re interested in working with me 🙂 benedicte@tugboatsend.org